An Unbreakable Bond

Moms Unmuted should not exist. In what reality should loving mothers be denied access to their children? Then be told to “shut up about it?” I am a targeted mother fighting ongoing parental alienation. Apparently yesterday was “Parental Alienation Day.” To need a day to recognize this evil phenomenon is a very sad truth in this Brave New World…

According to Psychology Today, “parental alienation occurs when a child refuses to have a relationship with a parent due to manipulation, such as the conveying of exaggerated or false information, by the other parent. The situation most often arises during a divorce or custody battle, but it can happen in intact families as well.”

What is missing from that definition is that parental alienation can be court ordered. Yes. You read that right. Without legal justification a judge or magistrate can order a fit parent not to see their child for as long as they deem fit and it is often at the request of the alienating parent. It’s a form of control and punishment. To say it is cruel is an understatement.

Parental alienation is painful for loving, safe parents. Who hurts the most are the children that are being denied the right to have access to safe parents who love them.

I am a victim of parental alienation and abduction. A month before Reign, my son, turned 3 years old, he was parentally kidnapped on September 1, 2021. That was the first night my breastfeeding toddler spent a night without me. Reign’s name was illegally changed, he was hidden and alienated for nearly two years. When Reign and I were reunited he was 4 years old, soon to be 5. Victor had given our 4-year-old, Reign, a black eye. Reign and his siblings have self-reported burns when they are disciplined. Locked in closets. Not given food…After I reported physical abuse, Reign was taken from me and given back to our abuser where I would not be allowed, per court order, to see Reign for a little over another 365 days. That was 2023.

Within those 365 days, Victor Lane Turner, was substantiated as a Category 1 child abuser in the state of Michigan. Specifically violating Reign’s sister between the ages of 5 and 7 years old. To date, Reign is still being parentally alienated from me, the only fit parent my baby has.

Wayne County officials and attorneys are helping Reign’s father maintain primary custody and a bond with Reign despite his egregious crimes against his children. The louder I get about this injustice happening to my sweet baby boy who is missing me like I am missing him, the more I am silenced.
Through this insane soul-shattering fight for Reign, I have learned another reason why God blessed me with this life: to support other mothers who have been muted in their journey of parenting and shed light on these horror stories of parents who have had a nightmare of a parenting journey. Some of us are literally living a fit living parent’s worst nightmare. Check in with your neighbor you know going through something that involves the fate of their children. Before my experience, I did not know this was any fit parents’ journey.

Resources for parental alienation are scarce. So, I created one of my own. If you resonate as a mother who has lost contact or has restricted access to your children, this journal is for you. It offers emotional support and strategies for mothers to stay “present” in their babies’ lives when they cannot be there physically and managing the grief of missed milestones. This journal is ideal for mothers in high conflict custody battles, mothers fighting parental kidnapping, mothers who have had their children removed by child protective services, for any mother who is mourning a living child, mothers of Rainbow babies, and any mother navigating the emotions of someone else raising her children.
I hope An Unbreakable Bond journal helps you or someone you know.
Be strong. Be faithful. Speak your truth.
And remember that the love you hold for your child/children is an unbreakable bond that no person, time, space, or system can ever take away from you.
Stay tuned for all the additional resources that will be added here.

-Moms Unmuted 💜